Spanking: Pain turns to Pleasure

I get a lot of clients that are worried about missing out. They watch a bit of porn and all the crazy things us sex workers get up to and then a client suddenly mixes “reel” life, with “real” life.
So it happens that a client will look through my list of services and think “I’ll try that”.
And a question I get a lot is – what’s with the spanking ?

Unlike bondage, and other forms of play in BDSM, spanking is something many clients say that while “they’re not into that sort of stuff” will try out. The bottom is fairly well-protected at the base of the spine, with a fair few nerve endings. It’s a sensitive area. And yet …

A spanking isn’t just about the physical contact itself. It’s soo much more. Those that enjoy a good spanking or corporal punishment will describe not just the physical act, yet the lead up to the act.

The anticipation. The build up.

Some may even go towards the humiliation that can come from being taken over one’s knee. Some may not even enjoy the physical spanking itself, and enjoy the overall discipline that comes from a spanking – especially submissives seeking to feel the ‘warmth’ and presence of their dominant.

This can take the spanking out of the realm of just sensation ( MIDDLE ZONE ) into the where our thoughts can amplify the arousal of one’s sexuality ( OUTER ZONE ). 

To understand the allure of a good spanking one must understand the erogenous zones in play.

As you can see there are 2 erogenous zones the OUTER ZONE ( Blue ) and the MIDDLE ZONE ( Red ) while both have their place in the realm of sexual expression, they are very different zones.

The MIDDLE ZONE is all about sensation. It’s where one just feels. Thought processes are not a driver or even considered in this zone. The central nervous system is just led by pleasure. Sensation. Tactile. Feelings.

So what of the OUTER ZONE ?  This is more when our personality, thoughts and culture come into play.  It’s not about touch, feel or sensation. Our intellect drives our motives. Playing in this zone can and does prolong play as one’s sexual expression is now playing out in the OUTER ZONE. 

If, for example, you had a ‘spanking Saturday’ with your partner- besides knowing that a spanking is coming on the day- not knowing when can add an additional element into the play.

The anticipation of

• When will it happen?
• Where will it happen?
• How will it happen? 

For some, these thoughts can bring around a huge spike in arousal. For others that have a preference to stay more in the MIDDLE ZONE, unless they’re in the play itself, little arousal comes from these thoughts.
Neither is right or wrong. It can come down to preference or even growth. Those seeking to expand their sexuality inevitably seek to move out to the opposite ZONE as a way of experiencing more of their sexuality. An expansion if you will. Chastity / Cage play is also a variation of this play as well. The denial of physical release adds to the OUTER ZONE arousal, which in turn, can amplify the MIDDLE ZONE.

 I speak more about this in my sex education section.  

This also taps into intention. Is this for Punishment or Enjoyment ?  This will dictate whether one stays in the OUTER ZONE or MIDDLE ZONE, but again this isn’t about one or the other. It’s about inclusion. Instead of just experiencing one. You can float in and out of either. Adding depth to your sexual experiences / expression as you can literally experience and feel more. 

So for those of you that ask ‘why?’ may now know that it’s not just the act ( spanking ) itself, yet sooo much more. As to the example before, some enjoy ‘playing’ in the OUTER ZONE which expands the play together and might not actually enjoy the MIDDLE ZONE at all as there is absolutely no pleasure being spanked at all – it hurts like hell, the humiliation is enormous.

All your focus is on the breath and the ability to take the next smack. Then the endorphins come out after the spanking is over. The relief is enormous and at this point you are so grateful you would do anything for your dominant. This truly is a turning moment for the submissive person

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Scarlett B Wilde takes a photo of Clients Red bottom after a spanking. The cheeks are red.

A slave of escort Scarlett B Wilde lays face down on a bed, with his bare red buttocks exposed. They’re red from a stern, strong spanking.